DEAR CAROL: Is it common for people with dementia to be afraid of falling? My mother has Alzheimer’s. She gets around with a walker but she needs assistance. I can understand an elderly person’s fear of falling because injuries can be so serious but she seems abnormally afraid.
Dear Carol: My mother was always a very clean person, but she has Alzheimer’s now and the situation has totally reversed. Mom’s always reluctant to get into the tub or shower, though some days are worse than others.
DEAR CAROL: My dad’s been in a wheelchair since suffering from a stroke years ago. Mom took care of him at home with a lot of help. After she died, Dad suffered a second stroke. He lived with my family for six months until a room at an excellent, nearby nursing home opened up two weeks ago. Even though he knew that the nursing home was part of the plan, he’s been angry about the move. His anger makes me feel guilty. I love my dad but we can’t do the physical work anymore. My wife and I both have jobs and we have teenagers who need our time, too. How can we help Dad adjust? – Randy
DEAR CAROL: My dad was 89-years-old and in a nursing home when he fell and broke his hip. While he was in the hospital and supposed to be healing from the fracture he developed pneumonia. Then, when they X-rayed his lungs they found the start of lung cancer.
DEAR CAROL: Alzheimer’s has affected both of my parents. Mom died two years ago and Dad is now in mid-stage Alzheimer’s. I’m worn out from providing care for them both even though Dad is now in a nursing home because of other health issues and is receiving excellent care from the staff.
DEAR CAROL: My grandma has frontotemporal dementia, which has completely changed her personality. She used to be funny and loving, but now she’s mean and hard to be around. My mom says she can’t deal with Grandma and work, too, and Grandma has no one else.
DEAR CAROL: I’ve read much of your work about not arguing with people who have dementia, but I have a hard time following through. Yesterday, my mother who has middle to late-stage Alzheimer’s, was complaining about something that happened years ago and I got really angry.
DEAR CAROL: My mother has had a series of strokes and lives in a good nursing home nearby. I do love her and I know she loves me, but her negative personality has been difficult over the years, and our relationship has been rocky.
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